‘The noble soul has reverence for itself.’ Beyond Good and Evil Welcome back. We’ve been talking about freeing yourself from the burden of worrying what other people think of you. Excessive concern with how others view us creates feelings of low status; it makes us feel judged, dependent, compromised and sometimes fake. It can even stymie our personal growth and inhibit the actualising of all our potential. In our first post on this topic, we looked at step 1. understanding w

Last time we talked about the reasons you might feel sh*t about yourself? They were: Because you are dependent on the judgments of others for feelings of adequacy. Because you are programmed to de-prioritise your own needs and your own value in favour of others. Because deep inside you are a wild animal, forcibly tamed, and unable to express its natural urges. Because you fail to achieve the better version of yourself that you want to be. Now let’s move onto step 2: Feeling g

We all like to think of ourselves as independent individuals, autonomous from the crowd, models of integrity - perhaps even mavericks and rebels. But the truth is that, far from being a solitary mountain goat scaling the precipitous peaks of life, the vast majority of us are just another sheep in the herd, going where the herd goes, doing what the herd does, deriving our identity and our sense of our own value from our place and status within it. Maybe you long to step up and